OK, right off the bat, I have to confess I do not tune my suspensions for ride comfort. So if that's the goal, I am not the guy.
I am looking for neutrality, meaning that one end of the car doesn't get way out ahead of the other when you are asking it to turn at the limits of tire traction.
Our cars come from the factory with a terrible "understeer" or "pushing" tendency.
General rule of thumb is that you want more compliance (softiness) on the end that is breaking traction in an annoying way. Because in hard turns I would turn the wheel and the front would keep going straight ("pushing"), that means the front was too stiff. So I set my BCs at, like 7 or 8 clicks in the front, and maybe 20 to 25 clicks in the rear (from full soft).
Soft in front, stiff in the rear.
Now it more or less does what I want, which is to have the rear wheels break traction before the fronts do. To me its a helleva a lot easier to control a mild rear step out by applying throttle or countersteering a bit than it is to try to get it tracking in the front again.
While I recommend the front/rear proportions due to how I know the stocker is biased (most factory cars tend to understeer, because for some reason, car engineers think its safer to slide straight in a failed turn than have the rear get loose. Never got that. . . ), you do not have to have everything so stiff if its rattling your fillings.
Try something like 3-4 clicks in the front and 12-15 in the rear. . . . From full soft, mind you.
Or just do what Dave from DDM said. Either way . . . .